“The difference between transactional leadership and transformational leadership is that transformational leadership is people-centric and introspective. Transactional leadership never requires introspection.” – Aiko Bethea (rarecoaching.net)
First, as I post about the topic of civility, I realize that there are two truths that I should have acknowledge. Second, my responses to issues that I do not agree with should be handled with respect and dignity.
The first truth:
It sometimes seems like most of the people are uncivil, crude or demeaning but are probably in the minority. I base this on what I have seen on social media (with the exception of X).
It is possible that the frustration people feel comes from a variety of reasons, most of which we have heard. Frustration! Feelings of not being heard. Being Misunderstood. The only way they may know how to express themselves is through anger and, unfortunately, viciousness.
The second truth:
Be willing to respond, not react, to an issue!
It is up to us to choose not to react to an issue or situation immediately. Taking the necessary time, (a minute, hour, or day) to reflect prevents us from making comments we may regret. Sometimes we perceive certain things from only our point of view or an assumption. When we respond, and that may be necessary with questions, we open ourselves to a better understanding. We can then respond appropriately without all the aggravating experiences we feel.
One of the many things I have been learning of late is that I tend to be triggered by transactional issues. An example of this is seeing the idea being spread that this is a nation started as a “Christian” nation. Or as some say, believing only in Jesus as the savior will open the gates of heaven.
I disagree wholeheartedly. This country’s evolution may have many values that are consistent with Christianity, but also Judaism and others.
Transformational issues, as the quote above says, are people-centric. It is based on what is best “for all people” and for the country.
Allowing and accepting people of all faiths is critical for a free, prosperous, and peaceful country. We are all children of God. God is the final judge of all of us.
Two things I am pondering these days:
- Am I living my truth? Will I be judged by my own actions, or
- Will God’s judgment of me include how I promoted love, peace, and compassion in this country/world?
Millie Padilla 
Beautifully written. I think you are living in your own way which is important so keep going on 😊
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